How to Have the Tech Talk with Tweens and Teens by Kira Lewis

In How to Talk About Technology with Younger Children, we covered having “The Tech Talk” with kids from toddler thru elementary school ages. Since the conversation around technology needs to start with our kids as early as two and go well into college and beyond, it was a lot of territory to cover in just one post. So, we split it into two and now we’ll move on to How to Have the Tech Talk with Tweens and Teens.


The discussion gets more difficult at this point as touchier subjects come into play, and we have less direct supervision of our children as they become more independent. However, these reasons make your involvement even more crucial and you should not shy away from tackling the tough issues, setting clear rules and enforcing strict consequences when they aren’t followed. The stakes are higher now, both in terms of your child’s safety and their future. One bad decision, such as sharing an inappropriate picture, can follow them in cyberspace for the rest of their lives.



  • Social media

    Social networks either require or strongly suggest that users should be 13 or older before signing up. However, this won’t keep a large number of tweens from being active on social media anyway. Ask your child if any of their friends are on Facebook or Instagram? Find out what kinds of things their friends are sharing on these networks? Then ask your child what they think is or isn’t okay to share? Now (yes, now!) is when you must begin to broach the topic of using sexual language or posting sexual pictures online or via text and the potential damage it can cause both in the short and long-term. If you need to, give examples of young celebrities they might be aware of who have suffered the damage of such choices.


  • Apps

    If your child has a phone, you also need to be aware of what apps they are using. Many apps can be used by sexual predators to seek out potential victims. For this reason alone, any app on your child’s phone should be pre-approved by you. All phones come with the ability to set restrictions that will only allow downloading with a password. You should be the gatekeeper of that password. If you are unsure about any app, Google it, you’ll find out really quick whether it’s good or bad. (Want to Know More: Read our Post WORST APPS FOR KIDS)


  • Cyberbullying

    One of the most unfortunate aspects of today’s technology is that it gives many people a false sense of anonymity. As this age group is already prone to a certain amount of teasing and ostracizing, cyberbullying has become a disturbing trend. In worse case scenarios, it has resulted in some children choosing to take their own lives. Keep an open dialogue going with your child on this subject and be sure to inquire if they’ve seen other children treated unkindly. How did this make them feel? How would they feel it was them? Also, while it is normal for tweens to be moody and somewhat withdrawn, be watchful for dramatic or unhealthy behavior changes, as it could be an indication that they are being bullied.


  • Social Media

    At this point, they are old enough to legitimately open social media accounts. While some parents may still be tempted to forbid their teens from being on social media, you’re going to have to let go on this one, at least gradually. Teens need to learn to navigate this tech terrain and they will require your oversight to help them become responsible social media users. They are also going to need your support in managing the ways social media can affect their self-esteem. Start with one social media platform and monitor their interactions. Remind them that most people only put their best selves forward on social media and so they should be careful about comparing themselves to what they see. Also, if it really poses a problem, help them evaluate whether or not they are really suited to certain types of social media. It can be helpful to share any of your own struggles on these fronts as well, so they see that it is a problem even for adults.
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By Kira Lewis on March 9, 2015 at Sunshine and Hurricanes

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